Yesterday, July 1st 2022, I posted on my Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/p/CfdlsEpMTM0/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link) controllable situations. outcomes (below picture / text) and obstacles. How obstacles can at times be totally un-controllable but also navigating through these. Many times, having control over outcomes is far fetched and we can at times allow it to control our emotions and at times, our actions. We either stop and give up or keep taking our text step and find a way through, past, over or under the obstacles to achieve an outcome. Remember, there is always an outcome, sometimes just not the one we wanted.
Ever since meeting him, Ambrosio was scared of Icarius. He was that scary looking man, a moustache, piercing eyes full of evil most of the time, short and small in stature, but as a child, of course he was a lot bigger than Ambrosio. He who would raise his voice to get what he wants, he would demand from Althea, push her around, beat her up and at times, also hit Ambrosio and his brother, Uther. Uther was a lot taller than Ambrosio and a little stronger that Ambrosio.
It happens right, or it has happened? Or maybe you’re not even aware of it! How did this make you feel? I recall many times growing up I would say these things or more to myself, the feeling of dread, the lack of self-esteem, the lack of confidence. Some of it was due to external factors out of my control, some, just being told things in the community or at school, it all had an impact, it all affected the self-talk dialogue. Ultimately, I was the loser here but looking back, maybe also others around me. They didn’t get the best of me; they didn’t get the opportunity to see what I was capable of at that time, the reason being, the negative inner self-talk.
Are you sure? What if it doesn’t work out? Have you thought about it? I don’t think you should? What about money? What about your job? Your [insert age]! Don’t do it! I’s too far! What about me / us [insert a loved one’s name] Have you heard any of this before? Highly likely when…
Many of us have been there. We enter into a new relationship and it’s fucking awesome, the standard phrase, ‘Honey-moon period’. It’s incredible right? You think it will last forever, naturally, you feel happy, the pleasure is there, and some people then drop their guard, stop doing the things they used to and before you know it, you’re in a rut. One of the 2 or sometimes both, change and get comfortable. It’s happened to me on both sides, I’ve got comfortable or the other half has – mainly the other half 😉, I’m a hopeless romantic. When we are not aware of this, it’s not much of an issue but deep down, we’re just settling, or are we? We’re all different so I’m being open here and very general.