Just be!
I recall after my brother died in 2013, I tried to push on through life, even the next day, I was in the gym at 6am looking to smash chest and back. Wanting a distraction and my space but also, some normality. There was nothing wrong with that – I just wanted ‘to be’. Fast…
Am I doing enough? Are you?
Do you ever scroll through Instagram, Facebook, any form of social media and doubt if you’re doing enough in life? Wonder if you are failing and not doing enough? Ok, be honest, if not with me then to yourself. I’ve been there before, mindlessly scrolling through Instagram thinking I’m not where I should be, or that I have failed in my job or that I am not lean enough or just a dam loser.
Outcomes and obstacles
Yesterday, July 1st 2022, I posted on my Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/p/CfdlsEpMTM0/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link) controllable situations. outcomes (below picture / text) and obstacles. How obstacles can at times be totally un-controllable but also navigating through these. Many times, having control over outcomes is far fetched and we can at times allow it to control our emotions and at times, our actions. We either stop and give up or keep taking our text step and find a way through, past, over or under the obstacles to achieve an outcome. Remember, there is always an outcome, sometimes just not the one we wanted.
Self-talk – quick note
It happens right, or it has happened? Or maybe you’re not even aware of it! How did this make you feel? I recall many times growing up I would say these things or more to myself, the feeling of dread, the lack of self-esteem, the lack of confidence. Some of it was due to external factors out of my control, some, just being told things in the community or at school, it all had an impact, it all affected the self-talk dialogue. Ultimately, I was the loser here but looking back, maybe also others around me. They didn’t get the best of me; they didn’t get the opportunity to see what I was capable of at that time, the reason being, the negative inner self-talk.
What if?
Are you sure? What if it doesn’t work out? Have you thought about it? I don’t think you should? What about money? What about your job? Your [insert age]! Don’t do it! I’s too far! What about me / us [insert a loved one’s name] Have you heard any of this before? Highly likely when…